people never change

Recently I have had a debate where I could not properly explain my thoughts on the subject. When we are born we are born with certain personality traights. I believe that some of our personality that makes us who we are is unchangeable. It may be controllable you may be able to change the way you display that personality traight but that traight is installed in you. Ultimatly you cannot change who you are.

Sigmund Freud developed a therory stating there are 3 parts of our personality Id, ego and superego. The Id is the behaviors we are born with. Newborn babies demenstrate our Id. "It is the dark, inaccessible part of our personality, what little we know of it we have learnt from our study of the dream-work and of the construction of neurotic symptoms, and most of this is of a negative character and can be described only as a contrast to the ego. We all approach the id with analogies: we call it a chaos, a cauldron full of seething excitations... It is filled with energy reaching it from the instincts, but it has no organization, produces no collective will, but only a striving to bring about the satisfaction of the instinctual needs subject to the observance of the pleasure principle. [Freud, New Introductory Lectures on Psychoanalysis (1933)]" The Id is part of our subconcious. We are not able to controll the Id. It is the oppisite the Id controlls us. The Id contains such personality traights such as anger, sex drive our drive for food and water. The id controlls our pleasure center also controlling the selfishness one portraits when concerened with only self pleasure. "contains everything that is inherited, that is present at birth, is laid down in the constitution -- above all, therefore, the instincts, which originate from the somatic organisation and which find a first psychical expression here (in the id) in forms unknown to us" [Freud, An Outline of Psycho-analysis (1940)].
The ego is what gives us common sence it works in contrast to the Id and trys to controll the Id. According to Freud,“ ...The ego is that part of the id which has been modified by the direct influence of the external world ... The ego represents what may be called reason and common sense, in contrast to the id, which contains the passions ... in its relation to the id it is like a man on horseback, who has to hold in check the superior strength of the horse; with this difference, that the rider tries to do so with his own strength, while the ego uses borrowed forces [Freud, The Ego and the Id (1923)] The ego may try to controll the Id but our basic selfish actions formed on passion still our unchanged justcontrolled or hidden.The supperego is the last to develope, it aims for perfection and tries to organise our goals and thoughts. The Super ego changes with our life change and the habitate around us but our primary Id remains the same and each individuals Id is based on there own needs.

The theory of the five personality traights has also been developed by psycologists. The five factors are Openness,Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism. Openness is the level in which you are willing to experience, involves imagination, your inner feelings, and curiosity. Conscientiousness is self taught, it incorperates being carefull and concious of your actions and surroundings. Extraversion goes hand in hand with introversion. Extroverts are outgoing and tend to seek excitment where as introverts will not seek excitment from others and they are satisfied with personal stimulation.Agreeableness is being able to cooperate and be pleasent and accomidating in all social cercumstanses. Neuroticism a negitive state of mind. Neuroticism individualls are more likeley to have low self essteem, more effected by stress, self concious and shy.The interesting thing is the resoning stated for these 5 behaviours. All could be threoretically blamed on behavior genetics. Molecular studies have exposed genetic factors that suggest a more biological origin for behavior. certain personality traights we have been born with inherited by our parents. One cannot change there genetics we can controll the way we show those emotions but we can not compleatly stop the emotion from arrising. Behavioral genetics researchers have found that a substantial portion of the variability on measures of neuroticismcan be attributed to genetic factors. Five factor model, is believed to have a genetic component. Identical twins (who have the same DNA) show similar scores on openness to experience, even when they have been adopted into different families and raised in very different environments.

In conclusion there are personality traight and behaviors urges that humans cannot change they can controll it but not change it. If a person is easliy aggitated they will always be easilly agitated perhapse because thier Id is more dominant then thier ego. There superego may help them controll the way they show or act when easily aggitated.We all have dominant personality traights that will controll a part of us how much we let it controll us is possible changing it compleatly unless drugged or another not natural procedure is used is not possible. We were born a certainway and we will stay with those emotions strongest to us.

K salah I know a weak conclussion I may edit later but am tired and want to get it out there argue away I gave you facts. I gave you a structered argument sooooooooo @!&@ Yourself LOL

BLAH

No Salah not blah blah blah, as I talk to much but just Blah cause that is the way I have been feeling. I am doing what I am suppose to be doing but normally when one acomplishes something its like YessssSS but I have been feeling so blah it has turned into a Meh. I thought perhaps its the weather cause the crappy weather can certainly make one Blah but right now the sun is shining and the little stupid birds are chirrpiing and still Blah. It feels as though I am searching for something but I dont know what. A sence of fullfillment a feeling of peace maybe. Life has turned into a cycle and it keeps flipping around over and over again same day replayed again and again I go to bed to wake up and do it again. What do you suggest I should do Salah?????????

The Happiest Moment of My Life

Salah wants another blog so I thought and thought about what I could type so passionately about and here it goes.
The Happiest Moment of My Life
This moment is very difficult to put in words but it is a moment I will never forget and a moment no one can ever take away from me. March 16, 2007, at 9:44 am I heard a noise I was prepared for the noice on so many levels but what I wasn't prepared for is the effect the noise would have on me. I wasn't prepared for my whole world to come crashing down on me. I wasn't prepared for that noice to fill me with a feeling of completeness. Finally my world made sense finally I had purpose.

Like I said my world came crashing down and changed into an entirely new world a world not about my feelings or my accomplishments. A world about someone else, a world where I was prepared to go to any lengths for someone else. That moment was filled with so much love, I thought my heart might explode when I heard that noice. It was filled with so much happiness, I really couldn't believe how happy I was as the tears of joy streamed down my face I thought I was floating. The moment was filled with new fears, I was no longer worried about my own simple life I was worried about failing in my life which would lead to failing in another's life.

The months prior to this moment were ones of stress pain and discomfort. My body changed and I didnt like it. I was crazy and emotional to the point of screaming and throwing things. I was so very very sick and so very very hot. I was filled with anticipation to the point of mental exertion. If I had known then what I know now I would never have complained.

I had thought I had known love. I had thought I had felt all that accompanies it, I thought wrong. No one will ever really know the feeling of true love until they hear that noice and feel their world crash in on them.

This is all I can tell you cause I can not choose the right words to explain further.