Recently I have had a debate where I could not properly explain my thoughts on the subject. When we are born we are born with certain personality traights. I believe that some of our personality that makes us who we are is unchangeable. It may be controllable you may be able to change the way you display that personality traight but that traight is installed in you. Ultimatly you cannot change who you are.
Sigmund Freud developed a therory stating there are 3 parts of our personality Id, ego and superego. The Id is the behaviors we are born with. Newborn babies demenstrate our Id. "It is the dark, inaccessible part of our personality, what little we know of it we have learnt from our study of the dream-work and of the construction of neurotic symptoms, and most of this is of a negative character and can be described only as a contrast to the ego. We all approach the id with analogies: we call it a chaos, a cauldron full of seething excitations... It is filled with energy reaching it from the instincts, but it has no organization, produces no collective will, but only a striving to bring about the satisfaction of the instinctual needs subject to the observance of the pleasure principle. [Freud, New Introductory Lectures on Psychoanalysis (1933)]" The Id is part of our subconcious. We are not able to controll the Id. It is the oppisite the Id controlls us. The Id contains such personality traights such as anger, sex drive our drive for food and water. The id controlls our pleasure center also controlling the selfishness one portraits when concerened with only self pleasure. "contains everything that is inherited, that is present at birth, is laid down in the constitution -- above all, therefore, the instincts, which originate from the somatic organisation and which find a first psychical expression here (in the id) in forms unknown to us" [Freud, An Outline of Psycho-analysis (1940)].
The ego is what gives us common sence it works in contrast to the Id and trys to controll the Id. According to Freud,“ ...The ego is that part of the id which has been modified by the direct influence of the external world ... The ego represents what may be called reason and common sense, in contrast to the id, which contains the passions ... in its relation to the id it is like a man on horseback, who has to hold in check the superior strength of the horse; with this difference, that the rider tries to do so with his own strength, while the ego uses borrowed forces [Freud, The Ego and the Id (1923)] The ego may try to controll the Id but our basic selfish actions formed on passion still our unchanged justcontrolled or hidden.The supperego is the last to develope, it aims for perfection and tries to organise our goals and thoughts. The Super ego changes with our life change and the habitate around us but our primary Id remains the same and each individuals Id is based on there own needs.
The theory of the five personality traights has also been developed by psycologists. The five factors are Openness,Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism. Openness is the level in which you are willing to experience, involves imagination, your inner feelings, and curiosity. Conscientiousness is self taught, it incorperates being carefull and concious of your actions and surroundings. Extraversion goes hand in hand with introversion. Extroverts are outgoing and tend to seek excitment where as introverts will not seek excitment from others and they are satisfied with personal stimulation.Agreeableness is being able to cooperate and be pleasent and accomidating in all social cercumstanses. Neuroticism a negitive state of mind. Neuroticism individualls are more likeley to have low self essteem, more effected by stress, self concious and shy.The interesting thing is the resoning stated for these 5 behaviours. All could be threoretically blamed on behavior genetics. Molecular studies have exposed genetic factors that suggest a more biological origin for behavior. certain personality traights we have been born with inherited by our parents. One cannot change there genetics we can controll the way we show those emotions but we can not compleatly stop the emotion from arrising. Behavioral genetics researchers have found that a substantial portion of the variability on measures of neuroticismcan be attributed to genetic factors. Five factor model, is believed to have a genetic component. Identical twins (who have the same DNA) show similar scores on openness to experience, even when they have been adopted into different families and raised in very different environments.
In conclusion there are personality traight and behaviors urges that humans cannot change they can controll it but not change it. If a person is easliy aggitated they will always be easilly agitated perhapse because thier Id is more dominant then thier ego. There superego may help them controll the way they show or act when easily aggitated.We all have dominant personality traights that will controll a part of us how much we let it controll us is possible changing it compleatly unless drugged or another not natural procedure is used is not possible. We were born a certainway and we will stay with those emotions strongest to us.
K salah I know a weak conclussion I may edit later but am tired and want to get it out there argue away I gave you facts. I gave you a structered argument sooooooooo @!&@ Yourself LOL
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Thursday, April 16, 2009
BLAH
No Salah not blah blah blah, as I talk to much but just Blah cause that is the way I have been feeling. I am doing what I am suppose to be doing but normally when one acomplishes something its like YessssSS but I have been feeling so blah it has turned into a Meh. I thought perhaps its the weather cause the crappy weather can certainly make one Blah but right now the sun is shining and the little stupid birds are chirrpiing and still Blah. It feels as though I am searching for something but I dont know what. A sence of fullfillment a feeling of peace maybe. Life has turned into a cycle and it keeps flipping around over and over again same day replayed again and again I go to bed to wake up and do it again. What do you suggest I should do Salah?????????
Thursday, April 9, 2009
The Happiest Moment of My Life
Salah wants another blog so I thought and thought about what I could type so passionately about and here it goes.
The Happiest Moment of My Life
This moment is very difficult to put in words but it is a moment I will never forget and a moment no one can ever take away from me. March 16, 2007, at 9:44 am I heard a noise I was prepared for the noice on so many levels but what I wasn't prepared for is the effect the noise would have on me. I wasn't prepared for my whole world to come crashing down on me. I wasn't prepared for that noice to fill me with a feeling of completeness. Finally my world made sense finally I had purpose.
Like I said my world came crashing down and changed into an entirely new world a world not about my feelings or my accomplishments. A world about someone else, a world where I was prepared to go to any lengths for someone else. That moment was filled with so much love, I thought my heart might explode when I heard that noice. It was filled with so much happiness, I really couldn't believe how happy I was as the tears of joy streamed down my face I thought I was floating. The moment was filled with new fears, I was no longer worried about my own simple life I was worried about failing in my life which would lead to failing in another's life.
The months prior to this moment were ones of stress pain and discomfort. My body changed and I didnt like it. I was crazy and emotional to the point of screaming and throwing things. I was so very very sick and so very very hot. I was filled with anticipation to the point of mental exertion. If I had known then what I know now I would never have complained.
I had thought I had known love. I had thought I had felt all that accompanies it, I thought wrong. No one will ever really know the feeling of true love until they hear that noice and feel their world crash in on them.
This is all I can tell you cause I can not choose the right words to explain further.
The Happiest Moment of My Life
This moment is very difficult to put in words but it is a moment I will never forget and a moment no one can ever take away from me. March 16, 2007, at 9:44 am I heard a noise I was prepared for the noice on so many levels but what I wasn't prepared for is the effect the noise would have on me. I wasn't prepared for my whole world to come crashing down on me. I wasn't prepared for that noice to fill me with a feeling of completeness. Finally my world made sense finally I had purpose.
Like I said my world came crashing down and changed into an entirely new world a world not about my feelings or my accomplishments. A world about someone else, a world where I was prepared to go to any lengths for someone else. That moment was filled with so much love, I thought my heart might explode when I heard that noice. It was filled with so much happiness, I really couldn't believe how happy I was as the tears of joy streamed down my face I thought I was floating. The moment was filled with new fears, I was no longer worried about my own simple life I was worried about failing in my life which would lead to failing in another's life.
The months prior to this moment were ones of stress pain and discomfort. My body changed and I didnt like it. I was crazy and emotional to the point of screaming and throwing things. I was so very very sick and so very very hot. I was filled with anticipation to the point of mental exertion. If I had known then what I know now I would never have complained.
I had thought I had known love. I had thought I had felt all that accompanies it, I thought wrong. No one will ever really know the feeling of true love until they hear that noice and feel their world crash in on them.
This is all I can tell you cause I can not choose the right words to explain further.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Stress
Time managment
Over run with responsibilities
Over tired from work
Things keep going wrong
Health issues
Lack of love and support
If you are suffering from 2 or more of the above named stress causers chances are you are stressed. Today I find myself self suffering from all of the above. I can not seem to keep my daily living activities and happenings in my life in order. Have you ever felt like at any minuet the whole world might just crash down on you? Well I am starting to feel like that is about to happen. I am going to give myself a couple of days and watch to see if the sky remains in the ozone layer cause if thing keep going the way they are going I might just find myself with a lack of oxygen due to the worl crashing in around me.
Today my ex called and my child is really sick from bronchitis. So I shall take a bus up and spend the weekend with her ( and him ). My baby has been with him for 2 weeks now. Now it looks like she might have to stay for another week. That hole that she fills in my life is getting bigger and bigger. I was very happy she was coming home tomorrow and wanted to get back into the routine of having her with me. But now it appears I shall go with out the love of my life for another week.
My ex is finacialy fucked and it looks like I will have to lend him more money to look after our daughter. I mean its not like I am not working and in college and have to take a cab every day to get to school. If I were doing all that it would be hard for me to scrounge up money to lend him right.
Apart from all that today I missed school because I took a tumble down the stairs and fucked up my back. I am now up too 4 days I have to make up and do not know how I am suppose to do that.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh
Okay part 2 is stress releiving activities .
Since salah is the only one who reads this blog lets ask him which activitie he thinks I should do.
Have a bath and read a book
Write an even longer blog about all the crap that is going on in my life <--- He is going to pick this one ( bah ha )
Get very drunk very very drunk
Go shopping and get nails done
Run away and hang with friends
Okay Salah what do you think?
Over run with responsibilities
Over tired from work
Things keep going wrong
Health issues
Lack of love and support
If you are suffering from 2 or more of the above named stress causers chances are you are stressed. Today I find myself self suffering from all of the above. I can not seem to keep my daily living activities and happenings in my life in order. Have you ever felt like at any minuet the whole world might just crash down on you? Well I am starting to feel like that is about to happen. I am going to give myself a couple of days and watch to see if the sky remains in the ozone layer cause if thing keep going the way they are going I might just find myself with a lack of oxygen due to the worl crashing in around me.
Today my ex called and my child is really sick from bronchitis. So I shall take a bus up and spend the weekend with her ( and him ). My baby has been with him for 2 weeks now. Now it looks like she might have to stay for another week. That hole that she fills in my life is getting bigger and bigger. I was very happy she was coming home tomorrow and wanted to get back into the routine of having her with me. But now it appears I shall go with out the love of my life for another week.
My ex is finacialy fucked and it looks like I will have to lend him more money to look after our daughter. I mean its not like I am not working and in college and have to take a cab every day to get to school. If I were doing all that it would be hard for me to scrounge up money to lend him right.
Apart from all that today I missed school because I took a tumble down the stairs and fucked up my back. I am now up too 4 days I have to make up and do not know how I am suppose to do that.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh
Okay part 2 is stress releiving activities .
Since salah is the only one who reads this blog lets ask him which activitie he thinks I should do.
Have a bath and read a book
Write an even longer blog about all the crap that is going on in my life <--- He is going to pick this one ( bah ha )
Get very drunk very very drunk
Go shopping and get nails done
Run away and hang with friends
Okay Salah what do you think?
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
So Salah tells me I should use my blog to write my thoughts and notes out, like a diary I share with the world. So I guess my thoughts of the day would be people can really suck sometimes.
I am working at a senior citizen home and although it was a good day cause none of my residents decided to hit me ( I am in the Alzheimer's ward) it was a very eye opening day to how selfish people can really be.
One of my residence is a very violent individual. I today wrapped my mind around why one resident can be violent when another suffering from the same disease can be gently only confused. As we were dressing this individual we will now call Suzy I noticed her clothing was all worn and she owned one pair of underwear and the elastics are coming out. I asked about this and was told her family never visits. I discussed it with my teacher and she justified it that they figure Suzy will not remember them anyways.
Is that not the most selfish thing you have ever heard. Sure they are paying a lot of money to keep her in the home and cared for but her personal needs that the facility does not and can not provide are falling apart. I noticed she has no T.V. no pictures nothing. No wonder Suzy is hitting people.
I started paying attention to the other residence and thier personalities. One of my clients is very sick and does not realise what is going on half the time. You can still get a smile out of her and her husband visits everyday. Another client is so confuse she yells and screams she is always cold and everything is awful but no hitting and today a family member visited her.
It is a very horrible conclusion but I am starting to believe that human beings revert back to infancy. If I baby who has no idea what is going on is loved unconditionally although the baby may cry from time to time it will also smile. An infant can not tell you they recognise you and may confuse your name and your role in there life they will always know you as someone familiar if you are around them allot.
Family is so important in every society it is sad that people put thier own needs and emotions in front of a family member in need. I don't care what the excuse is whether it hurts to much to visit or there is not enough time or Suzy wont remember me. It is sick sick sick!!!!!!!!!!
So Salah that was my day.
I am working at a senior citizen home and although it was a good day cause none of my residents decided to hit me ( I am in the Alzheimer's ward) it was a very eye opening day to how selfish people can really be.
One of my residence is a very violent individual. I today wrapped my mind around why one resident can be violent when another suffering from the same disease can be gently only confused. As we were dressing this individual we will now call Suzy I noticed her clothing was all worn and she owned one pair of underwear and the elastics are coming out. I asked about this and was told her family never visits. I discussed it with my teacher and she justified it that they figure Suzy will not remember them anyways.
Is that not the most selfish thing you have ever heard. Sure they are paying a lot of money to keep her in the home and cared for but her personal needs that the facility does not and can not provide are falling apart. I noticed she has no T.V. no pictures nothing. No wonder Suzy is hitting people.
I started paying attention to the other residence and thier personalities. One of my clients is very sick and does not realise what is going on half the time. You can still get a smile out of her and her husband visits everyday. Another client is so confuse she yells and screams she is always cold and everything is awful but no hitting and today a family member visited her.
It is a very horrible conclusion but I am starting to believe that human beings revert back to infancy. If I baby who has no idea what is going on is loved unconditionally although the baby may cry from time to time it will also smile. An infant can not tell you they recognise you and may confuse your name and your role in there life they will always know you as someone familiar if you are around them allot.
Family is so important in every society it is sad that people put thier own needs and emotions in front of a family member in need. I don't care what the excuse is whether it hurts to much to visit or there is not enough time or Suzy wont remember me. It is sick sick sick!!!!!!!!!!
So Salah that was my day.
Monday, February 16, 2009
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